The Knowing

Over the years, I’ve heard countless women say:

“I just knew in my gut.”

“I should have listened to my intuition.”

“I don’t know how I knew. I just knew.”

Maybe you’ve experienced this too.

A flutter in your stomach. A sudden sense of unease. A feeling that something isn’t quite right, even though you can’t explain why. Or perhaps it’s a quiet pull toward something - a sense of peace or certainty that says, This is right for me.

I’ve come to think of this as The Knowing.

It isn’t magic or mystical. And it isn’t always loud. Often, it’s subtle - a feeling or sensation that arrives before your mind has had time to make sense of what’s happening. Our intuition isn’t always right, but it can give us information that deserves our attention.

What I find most interesting isn’t whether women have this inner knowing. Most do.

The question is:

Why do so many of us stop listening to it?

For many women, the disconnection happens gradually. Maybe you learned that being “nice” was more important than being honest about what you felt. You ignored your discomfort because you didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings or seem rude.

Maybe you were told you were “too sensitive,” “too emotional,” or “too dramatic.”

Over time, you learned to question yourself instead of trusting yourself.

Many women also become incredibly skilled at reading everyone else - their needs, moods, expectations, and emotions. While that can be a strength, it can come at a cost. When you’re constantly tuned into everyone else, it becomes harder to hear yourself.

And if you’ve been repeatedly told that your perceptions are wrong, your feelings don’t make sense, or your memory isn’t accurate, you may begin looking outside yourself for reassurance instead of within.

Eventually, you stop asking:

“What am I sensing?”

and start asking:

“What will make everyone else comfortable?”

But here’s what I want you to know:

Intuition isn’t something you lose.

Sometimes, it’s something you bury.

Under self-doubt.
Under people-pleasing.
Under accommodating.
Under fear.

But The Knowing is still there.

It may be quiet, but it hasn’t disappeared.

You can begin reconnecting with it by slowing down and becoming curious about what you feel. By noticing what your body is telling you, even when you don’t have the whole picture.

And by asking yourself:

What do I notice?
What do I need?
What feels right for me?

Learning to listen to The Knowing isn’t about always having the answer.

It’s about remembering that your experience matters.

Your feelings are worth listening to.

And you don’t always need someone else to tell you what you already know deep down.

Sometimes, The Knowing has been there all along.

Quietly waiting for you to listen.